Why is my ex trying to provoke an argument with me?

She claimed her friend who was newly single needed her support.

My ex did this,

Eventually the phone calls n texts slowed to a stop. Eventually she stopped coming home. And when she did it was instant anger and yelling.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I'm assuming she was trying to flee from accountability in her life, probably got caught doing something from the new boyfriend she suddenly had, so to get out of the spot light, she had to put me in it.

Inevitably she had an explosive outrage and demanded I moved out n that it was over.

Fast forward to 2.5 years later. The explosive anger and aggression came back out of no where. Long texts, picking fights, threats, anger, rage, chaos.

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It eventually became an every weekend thing, then her friend started coming over, every single day. She wouldn't leave. And my ex was letting her invade our life.

Our breakup process started when she started going out drinking, about when our daughter was 2

So without knowing your situation. I'm guessing your ex had to provoke an argument with you because something on their end did not fall into place as planned, so as a way out. They had to point a finger at you

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My daughter from a previous relationship would come over, my ex would leave that weekend n party the whole weekend away. Coming back Sunday. Leaving me with the three kids.